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Lilly Shaffer



Pronouns: She/Her

Style: Compassionate, Attuned, and Affirming

Works with:

  • Child/Family (0-5)
  • Child/Family (6-12)
Grace Provost MSW


Who I am as a Therapist

Children are constantly learning how to navigate the world around them, and it’s our job to help them! As a therapist, I strive to create a safe environment for children to explore their past experiences and imagine their future ones. I believe that treating children with unconditional positive regard and allowing them to communicate using their natural language (play!) is key to creating a positive and open therapeutic relationship.

A child’s caregivers and community are crucial to their learning, and I do not take their influence lightly. I work directly with families to teach strategies to implement with their child(ren) at home to encourage a lifelong environment of healing and growing long after my contribution is complete. I understand how challenging it can be to raise a child and never impart judgement on any of the families I have the opportunity to work with. It takes a village, and I’d be honored to be welcomed into yours.

I have nearly a decade of experience working with children, adolescents, and families, in areas such as preschool teaching, nannying, child welfare/foster care, group therapy, and play therapy. I have a master’s degree in social work with a focus in clinical work with children and families, which has further solidified my passion for this field.

I am a cis, white therapist and am keenly aware of my position and privilege in the therapy world. I take an approach of cultural humility, leaning on you as the expert of your own life to give me a window into your family’s unique challenges. I am honored to work with children and families of all backgrounds, regardless of race, gender identity, and sexual orientation.

“How you feel about a child is more important than what you know about the child.”
Dr. T. Berry Brazelton

Specialty Areas

Mental Health Challenges 

  • Activism & Burnout
  • Adoption & Foster
  • ADHD
  • Anxiety (General, Panic, Phobias)
  • Attachment & Relational Challenges
  • Behavioral Challenges in Children
  • Biracial Couples/Families
  • Blended Family
  • Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships
  • Cultural & Systemic Oppression
  • Depression
  • Disability
  • Dissociation
  • Divorce
  • Grief & Loss
  • Identity Development
  • Learning Disorders
  • Life Transitions
  • Managing Stress
  • Mood Dysregulation
  • Neurodiversity
  • Parenting
  • Postpartum Depression
  • School Issues
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Sexual Health
  • Trauma Recovery (PTSD & Abuse)
  • Women’s Issues

Therapeutic Approaches 

  • Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • Anti-Racist Trauma-Informed Care (ARTIC)
  • Attachment-Based Therapy
  • Child Parent Psychotherapy (CPP)
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  • Cognitive Therapy
  • Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS)
  • Compassionate Communication (NVC)
  • Feminist Therapy
  • Intergenerational Family Therapy
  • Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS)
  • Interpersonal Neurobiology
  • Mind-Body/Somatic
  • Mindfulness
  • Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR)
  • Motivational Interviewing (MI)
  • Narrative Therapy
  • Play Therapy
  • Solution-Focused Therapy
  • Transgender-Affirming Care
Grace Provost MSW

Who I am when I’m not a Therapist

I was born and raised in Gig Harbor, WA (outside of Seattle). My life outside of being a therapist revolves around my wonderful husband and our two dogs. When I have a quiet moment, I love to read suspense novels, tend to our vegetable and herb garden, and foster my relationships with family and friends. I am an extrovert at heart and thrive when I’m surrounded by loved ones! While I enjoy a sunny day, I feel most comfortable during rainstorms and have found a cozy piece of home here in Portland, OR.


  • MSW, New York University, NY
  • BS Psychology, University of Oregon, OR

Training & Experience  

  • Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Training
  • Licensed as QMHP-R and CSWA in the state of Oregon
  • Training and experience in Play Project, Theraplay, and Floortime techniques
  • Training and experience in child-centered play therapy
  • Experience working with children with Autism and other behavioral challenges
  • 4+ years of preschool teaching experience
  • AmeriCorps program management experience
  • Experience in child welfare/foster care

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