Elinor Wilber

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Pronouns: She/Her

Therapeutic Style: Relatable, Calm, Compassionate

Services Provided:

• Adult Individual Therapy
• Adult Family Therapy
• Couples and Relationships Counseling

Who I am as a Therapist

I specialize in working with couples experiencing recurring conflict, disconnection, betrayal, addiction, and major life transitions. The couples I work with often care deeply for each other but have become caught in patterns that leave both partners feeling misunderstood, alone, and unsure how to reconnect. The work we do together can help slow interactions down, understand what’s happening beneath the conflict, and develop new ways of responding to one another.

I believe that individual therapy can be an important avenue for healing. However, it is often in our relationships with others that our deepest wounds are activated, and it is within these same relationships that we can experience some of the most powerful healing. Couples therapy can be a place to learn more about ourselves, repair old wounds, and build new experiences of connection, safety, and trust with the person we love.

Often this work includes navigating communication and conflict, infidelity and betrayal trauma, addiction and recovery, intimacy and sexual concerns, open and consensually non-monogamous relationships, parenting and co-parenting, infertility and family building, caring for aging parents, and major life transitions.

I also offer Couples Therapy Intensives in 90-minute, 3-hour, and 6-hour formats. These extended sessions provide dedicated time to understand relationship patterns, work through areas of conflict or disconnection, and practice new ways of communicating and connecting. If you have spent years in couples therapy with no real changes, Couples Therapy Intensives can help you quickly get to the root of the problem. If you are new to couples therapy, Couples Therapy Intensives can feel like getting through the first ten sessions in one weekend.

I also work with individuals seeking to heal from trauma, better understand themselves, and strengthen their relationships.

My work is informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), attachment theory, humanistic psychology, and trauma-informed care. I have advanced training in EFT and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).

Clients tell me I am warm, engaged, curious, and direct. I often hear from clients that what they most enjoy is that I get to the heart of the matter quickly.

Areas of Focus

Therapeutic Approaches 

• Attachment Based Family Therapy (ABFT)
• Attachment-Based Therapy
• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
• Compassionate Communication (NVC)
• Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
• Emotionally Focused Therapy
• Existential Humanism
• Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
• Psychodynamic

Who I am when I'm not a Therapist

When I am not working, I am usually hiking with my two dogs, attempting a new knitting pattern, trying out fun restaurants, and spending time with family.

Training & Experience  

• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Externship
• Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Basic Training