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Marriage Counseling

Some common marital problems are:

  • little things become big things
  • hard or impossible to talk about certain topics because it leads to a fight
  • one withdraws while the other feels abandoned
  • both withdraw leaving a feeling of a Cold War, where there is a seeming insurmountable distance
  • uncertain whether to trust your partner, which shows up in small ways
  • feel challenged to communicate the most basic experience you’re having
  • sexual disconnection

Couples Counseling becomes a safe place where both you and your partner can find and rest in the deeper connection of the love you both share. Healthy committed relationships and marriages are about balancing connection & intimacy with independence & autonomy. Ideally, each influences and helps the other. Couples therapy helps to achieve this balance in your relationship, so that your communication can happen effectively and with ease.

Using mindful awareness, couples counseling seeks to slow down your interactions so you can begin to identify how each of you becomes triggered and set off in your relationship. You can then gain clarity about certain past wounds and injuries that can often show up in your current relationship, thereby obstructing the intimacy and connection that is wanting to happen.

Marriage/Couples Therapy is for you and your partner if you would like to:

  • Learn to communicate in a more constructive and connecting way
  • Be light and enjoy each other’s presences
  • Discover how to relax into intimacy with each other
  • Reestablish & rekindle your connection with each other
  • Gain clarity and understanding before making a larger commitment to each other through marriage or other life-commitments
  • Seek support for very intense and challenging life circumstances and/or transitions (such as death, divorce, retirement, or infidelity)

What to expect with marriage counseling?

Marriage counseling sessions are 50 minutes long and typically happen weekly.  Our therapists often incorporate a mindfulness approach to couples counseling. This means that you and your partner may be asked to bring your awareness internally at various points in the session.Practicing mindfulness helps reduce defensiveness and fosters closeness.

Couples counseling seeks to go beyond the challenging emotional cycles of anger, blame, and criticism that often painfully arise in relationships, especially around difficult issues. Over time, marriage counseling can help you and your partner to feel and express the underlying and unacknowledged emotions of fear, hurt, loss, and sadness. This deep sharing can reestablish trust and cultivate a sustaining intimacy.

Along the way, you will also learn communication skills and techniques that you and your partner can practice in-between sessions and integrate into you relationship.

Is Marriage Counseling Right for You?